#3: Intention: Get Clear about WHY YOU ARE HERE

Set your intention to get clear. When you are distracted, you try to "get" things. When you are clear, you allow things. If someone is not clear about his intention, then he blocks his own success! Why?  Because he hasn't decided to show up. He's living his life as a shrug.

Get Clear: Why are you here?

Being clear about why you're doing something is very important. Recognize your own "my friend made me come" patterns in each and every day so that you can start to get laser clear about your own intentions. Clarity doesn't always mean you know exactly what you're doing. But it does mean that you know exactly who you're being and why.

Examples:
"My intention is to finally write that book I've been talking about writing."
"My intention is to get an education to be self-sufficient for the next stages of my life."
"My intention is to be more creative and happy in my life."
"My intention is to heal the grief I've experienced in the past year, and move into a life of joy."

Write in a journal and answer the question. Keep in mind three points:

1. Even if you don't know, you do know--deep down, you do.
2. Wimpy language gets wimpy results.
3. Intention can be tweaked. 

#2: changing the HOW, not the WHAT.

Then, you can decide if you want to change the what.

By the time someone realizes they're tired or they're "stuck," or they just don't want to struggle anymore, it's natural and normal to think there's no other option than to just run away. But "running away" is just your mind being disempowered and lazy.

But the only way to make true and lasting change is to start from the inside and work your way out. Then, if "leaving" is still the best course to take, you do it with energy, purpose, and clarity. And if you create something new, it has a much bigger chance of succeeding!

Start with your intention. "What do I want? What am I seeking?" You may have to clear some clutter; the stuff you've allowed to just creep into your environment and your schedule. The stuff that drains you.

Take your time; you may feel impatient. Or you might experience some grief. You might want to just "run away" rather than change your mindsets.

All of this is normal.

The worst thing you can do is tell yourself, "This won't work for me. I'm too far gone." That is simply lazy thinking, and it is untrue. You have to let go of what drains you, to dream huge dreams - but do not give up on yourself and your life.

#1: Cold Turkey - No more complaining!

What is complaining? 

Eckhart Tolle says: 

"Complaining is not to be confused with informing someone of a mistake or deficiency so that it can be put right. And to refrain from complaining doesn't necessarily mean putting up with bad quality or behavior. There is no ego in telling the waiter your soup is cold and needs to be heated up--if you stick to the facts, which are always neutral. 'How dare you serve me cold soup...?' That's complaining."

I don't believe I do much complaining, but I am making this commitment: I am going to commit to giving up complaining, criticizing, gossiping, whining, bitching, moaning (you get the idea) - COLD TURKEY for the coming 7 weeks.

According to Christine Kane, "even if you think you don't do much of this stuff, make this commitment. You might be surprised to find out how many of your everyday conversations begin with a seemingly small complaint." 

Three reasons to do this:

1. Attention is a powerful tool: Energy goes where attention flows. 

2. Complaining is a distraction (time waster, energy stealer): You cannot create a better reality by focusing on your current unhappiness and complaining.

3. Complaining makes your ego stronger because it makes someone or something else wrong - and it makes YOU right. You become inflated and puffed up. Well, actually YOU don't -- but your ego sure does! But only in a very superficial way. Letting go of complaining tells your ego that YOU (or your Wise Self) have decided to run the show, not your ego.

A strategy for dealing with things that trigger complaints: "Containerize" your complaint: acknowledge you are doing it, and set a limit, say 2 minutes, and wrap it up by looking for a solution.

For the 49-day period, starting on ___125/17___ and ending on __3/15/17_____, I, ____Deborah Lorraine______, hereby commit to uplevel my life by giving up the following: complaining, criticizing, gossiping and whining. If I catch myself in the act, I will remind myself that I signed this contract, forgive myself, and remember to breathe and move away from negativity. I will remember the power of my attention, and remind myself “Energy flows where attention goes!” I will then start over from Day One, and begin again! In this way, I creatively build my dreams and attract harmony and success.